I don’t think much changed in the overall pattern, in another (also German) study what five years ago I read an absolutely overwhelming number of domestic violence constellations is mutual, provided psychological violence is taken into account, bluntly said assholes hook up with assholes. And lesbian couples have a higher rate than heteros who have a higher rate than gay men.
I do think the whole current approach to addressing the issue is fundamentally flawed: Aggression is not particularly gendered, though expresses itself in gendered ways, we have to un-fuck the psychology of people overall. Long story short we need to eat the rich to take the pressure off, then, once people have a breather many will fix themselves, and the rest will be in a state where putting them on the couch actually has a chance of success. Hard to drain a swamp while you’re fighting off crocodiles.
hexbear avoided defederation by having admins who are more reasonable than (a not small chunk of) its users, lemmygrad is generally keeping to itself. It’s certainly not because Sunaurus, an Estonian, would have a soft spot for Russian imperialism. We’re also federated with beehaw, btw, as in they’re not blocking us.
I don’t know why we have so few communities, either. If we had more there very well might be more defederation drama going on because the more communities, the more chance for people to misbehave. movies is a quite harmless community in that regard, imagine !ukraine@sopuli.xyz while being federated with hexbear or lemmygrad.
I think lemm.ee is just… generic? It’s a place where you can have an account and see practically the whole fediverse, attracting a lot of people who just want to participate, not found communities. feddit.org has the whole German community plus the canonical Europe one, lemmy.ca is Canadian, programming.dev is very very techy, dbzero anarchist+pirate.