Most multiplayer games gain by already knowing mechanics, maps, characters, items, etc.

What you say and what you describe are not the same. Your explanation is literally how it was explained on the other site. So you are better than you think you are. =)

And I do it the same as you. Something I disagree with or don’t like but is reasonably argued and not mean or full of any -isms? No vote from me.

Followed your advice, now my husband complains I’m not the woman he married anymore.