As a shut in with social anxiety and very introverted
As someone who is similar, my advice is this. Get yourself one friend who is the exact opposite. If they care about you, they’ll basically force you to attend social functions and stuff with them, and that will put you into a situation to get more comfortable with more people. Their friends become your friends.
You are going to get a whole lot of different answers. Simply because there is no one answer.
There is also no separation between the physical and the mental. They’re one and the same. If you don’t feel physical pleasure during sex, you’re not going to feel emotional pleasure, and vice versa. There is nothing wrong with not feeling sexual pleasure. Sexual interest is not a binary all or nothing. It’s a scale from Asexual (not interested at all) to sex-addict, with most people falling somewhere in between. So any answer you get is going to be from different points on the scale, not necessarily close to where you are on it (very close if not completely asexual)
I fall somewhere close to asexual, but not all the way. I’m much more interested in the lead-up to it, first second and third base, so-to-speak, and rounding for home is just kind of a let-down after all of it. A part of that (not to get too into the weeds) is that I love performing cunnilingus, but hate receiving blowjobs, because I can’t fathom that a woman actually enjoys giving head, and therefore I can’t take any pleasure from it. But 80% of my sexual pleasure comes from knowing that I’m giving HER pleasure. There is no greater rush of endorphins than using fingers and tongue and then seeing your partner not able to walk afterwards because their legs are shaking too much.
THAT is far more of a sense to me; the mental. The actual act of intercourse is no different than masturbation; it’s what you do to empty your balls once the fun part has been completed.
The idiot man-child can “summon” as much as he wants, but they’re sovereigns of another country and can’t make them do shit if they don’t feel like it.
It’s already been mentioned, but I’ll throw in for Jitsi. I believe it can also be self-hosted.